Lessons Learned the Hard Way
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It’s taken some time for me to get to know myself better. Over time, I’ve become more aware of who I am than ever before. I’ve learned some valuable lessons, and believe me, they were all learned the hard way.
But that’s the beauty of lessons isn’t it? If you learn it too quickly or too easily, then you don’t value it. It’s the lessons that you learned while putting yourself through crap that you can say to yourself..”okay I gotta change this.”
Regardless of how I learned them, I’m happy and very thankful that I did.
I’ve learned to….
- Love my post pregnancy body. Heck I think it’s better than before because I’m more aware of it.
- Forgive myself. No use beating myself up, especially when I don’t gain anything from it.
- Put my fears aside. Why be afraid to try something new? I’ll only regret that I didn’t try it sooner.
- Fail. It’s okay if I stink miserably at somethings. The important thing is I tried it and failing at a task gives me the determination to get better. There is no room for growth with perfection.
- Take care of me first. You know that saying, “Ain’t no body happy until Momma’s happy.” I think it’s so true. As the women in our families, we have to try to keep our spirits up. When we’re happy and smiling, everyone is happy around us. Our happiness is contagious, as well as our sour moods.
- Networking is important for the mind. Regardless if it’s an online village or in person, a village of people with like minds is invaluable. They will help you smile when you’re down, or give you advice when you need it.
- Love myself. I can love my body, but I need to love me–all of me. Faults included. I learned to accept myself for everything that I am, and everything that I will be, and everything that I was.
- Getting my priorities straight. I don’t know what it is about having kids, but what you used to think was important, suddenly becomes unimportant. I’ve learned to really see and handle the things that really matter.
I only have 8 because I’m still a student of life, but I’m curious…what have you learned so far?
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Good post, ty for sharing!
we have some the same and im still learing. It amaze me how others blogging make us really think and some talk to us. We learn the lesson together or our eyes or open more! God Bless 
I have definitely learned to take care of myself and love myself like crazy. Near the top of my list is reminding myself that regardless of what’s going on in my life, happiness is a choice. I choose it everyday.
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That’s so true! Happiness is a choice!
#5 and #7 are definitely tough lessons to learn, but much needed.
One of the lessons I have learned the hard way is that people come and go in your life for a specific reason and season. When a relationship (regardless of the type) ends, it doesn’t represent a bad thing. That season is just over and you have to move on………
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That’s a great way to look at it. I do agree, that there are some people who will be in your life for different seasons. It’s okay if you grow or they grow, or things drift apart. It was good during that time, and you benefited from having their friendship during that time.
Either you learned something about yourself, or you grew as a person.
I have learned that life does not stand still for anyone. I have also learned to appreciate what I have because someone has it worse than me. All of the lessons you mentioned are great lessons I am having a hard time with is #5 I always do so much for others before I do for myself.
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I also struggle with #5 as well. It’s like I know I need to do me first, but sometimes you get caught up on the motion of things that you end up putting yourself last.
I realize that the only one to suffer for that is me. I don’t need to be a sacrificial lamb for no reason
So every now and then, I need to remind myself.
I have learned that I control nothing in this life other than my happiness. If I control that well all of the other things won’t set me off.
Life is so funny.
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I love that! You can’t control anything else other than your own happiness. It’s hard to remember, but you feel good when you do. It’s much easier to let things go that are not in your control.
What I’ve learned is that my happiness does not come from my relationships. It comes from me. My relationships enhance my happiness!
I’m also learning that it’s okay not to carry everyone’s burdens.
Embracing #3 will break the chains of limitations. If we put our fears aside there’s no limit on what we can achieve!
Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha
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Yup, that’s right. Happiness does come from within. It’s also something that’s hard to remember when we’re caught up with the motions of it all.
Great post, I especially agree with #5, when I had my firstborn, I barely had any babysitters so when I did, and I got a few hours to myself (to go shopping or to the gym or whatever) I came back a totally different person, happy and much better spirited. This is a great list, thank you for sharing.
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You are very welcome Nellie! I love it when I can finally get some time to myself. You do feel like a new person and ready to take on the world.
I’ve learned that I have to trust myself and listen to my inner voice. I haven’t mastered this yet, but I’m thankful that I’m aware of it enough to work on it.
I’m still learning this as well. Its funny how we are our hardest teachers. I’m still trying to master listening to myself. Half the battle is knowing that there is a battle to begin with.