This is a touchy subject, one that I am going to try to approach with care.
I’ve read in the news and else where that there has been a trend to ban children from places, or charge families extra for bringing their children along to a restaurant.
In the most part, the reason is babies (and little kids) makes a lot of messes (and noise)–I get that, but the underlying result seems to be: ostracize the next generation when they are young.
In the parenting section in the book store, there are tons of books on how to control kids–in short, how to make them act like us. Something that we approve of.
There has also been a misconception that children are getting away with things that they shouldn’t (okay some are, but really not all). Are hating on the little ones who are really just carving out their place in the world really worth it?
Nope, so the attack on parents begin. “Parents should know better than to take their child here.” I think I’ve read it all. What about that single mother who has literally no one to watch their kids?
They work, they go to school, and they need to buy groceries, people actually expect her to walk out of the store and wait until a next time to get food? Really, is there an actual next time?
I understand that people don’t like other people’s children, BUT what about a sense of, “Ah, I know what that person’s going though.” Or, “They seem to have their hands full, let’s just move away.”
Every day, I wonder what kind of world am I raising my child in. A society that obviously NEEDS the next generation, but unwilling to recognize that the generation needs time to grow up.
(Of course when society pushes too hard, we are appalled — crotches panties for tweens anyone?)
Kids can pick up on things. They know who likes them and who doesn’t. They know when they’re not wanted, they also learn (from our example) that this is how you treat other children.
Now, I’m not only in defense of parents. As parents, we know when we’re taking our children out of their element, to a new experience. We know when our kids are about to have a melt down and we have to decide how to handle it.
Perhaps as a society we no longer have tolerance for anything that appears to annoy us, even if we have the power to decide if it really annoys us.
We try to teach our children fairness. Not to exclude. Accept people for who they are. Understand why a person is acting like that (a baby is crying, maybe they’re hungry), we try to teach them not to judge.
Then when they grow up, they learn that those things were all lies. Adults don’t do what they teach. Society, which is made up of rules of do’s and don’t, don’t really care about the message that is being said.
Children of the next generation…what are you really learning from our actions? I’m honestly afraid to know.