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Relieving The Worry Bug

Relieving The Worry Bug

For as long as I can remember, I have always worried.  It was something that was part of who I was, and what I did.  My mind would wander off to the worst possible scenario.  Even when writing on my blog, I would worry about how I would be perceived, who would take me the wrong way.  Sometimes, I would worry about if I would be taken too serious, or not too serious enough.  These thoughts plagued me all the time. Here are just some insights that I’ve realized that helped me put my worrying into perspective.   I wanted absolutes    One of the things I struggled with was not knowing.  I wanted to know every detail of the procedure.  Every bit of knowledge of anything that was bothering me until I’ve exhausted all materials I could find.  The problem was, I was looking for absolutes in a world that is not certain. No one can promise today, or tomorrow.  I worried about preventing things.  From helping my family out, to making sure that I’m doing everything I can health wise for them.  Honestly, I can just do the best that I can.  I do what I can (and afford) for my family, and then leave the rest up to God.   I can’t say that I stop researching information–I think that’s just hardwired in me to do now.  However, I’m not obsessed about it.  When I feel like I have received the answers that I was looking for, then I start applying what I have learned.   Separate what I can do from what I can’t  ...
Getting Away From False Positivity

Getting Away From False Positivity

  There is something I feel deep down I have to address, and its the pitfalls of the positivity trap.  Now in my last post I talked about surrounding yourself with positive people.  Some may interpret that with a chipper and upbeat kind of temperament.   Positivity Does Not Mean: Make Yourself Feel Happy All The Time   First of all, I’m human.  I have moods that goes up and down and I have feelings.  I would be crazy to tell you that you must be happy all the time.  That’s just not going to happen. Too much of this positivity business has been about making yourself feel happy, even though you woke up on the wrong side of the bed. That’s okay. Focusing on the good things in your life can change your mood.  Not going to say it works all the time, but it does help.  I think we have gotten away from the idea that we will feel what we will feel every given day, and that has to be okay.  You’re going to have an off day / week.  That’s life. But you’re not a failure if you have an off moment in life.  It’s about the ups and downs.  Now with that being said, let’s focus on some ways we can focus on some positive things.   Gratitude   I constantly remind myself, how would I feel if I woke up with only the things I was grateful for yesterday.  It is a great blessing to wake up in the morning, and honestly, that’s it–wake up in the morning! To be thankful from the minute you wake up, and...
Rest With the Lord – A Sunday Reflection

Rest With the Lord – A Sunday Reflection

  “Gospel, Mark 6:30-34 30 The apostles rejoined Jesus and told him all they had done and taught. 31 And he said to them, ‘Come away to some lonely place all by yourselves and rest for a while’; for there were so many coming and going that there was no time for them even to eat. 32 So they went off in the boat to a lonely place where they could be by themselves. 33 But people saw them going, and many recognised them; and from every town they all hurried to the place on foot and reached it before them. 34 So as he stepped ashore he saw a large crowd; and he took pity on them because they were like sheep without a shepherd, and he set himself to teach them at some length. “ I’ve been running on empty for the past few weeks. It wasn’t something that I planned, but time flew away from me and the next thing that I noticed–I was moody and cranky, and honestly I just wanted to sit somewhere and cry (or stare at a wall for a very long time). I know I am not the only one who goes through something like this–life just doesn’t seem to slow down, and it’s usually one thing after another. Well, this weekend, I’ve just about had it. I was having a conversation with my husband about it, and it was a sad reality that I was facing; I was sitting on our bed, and I was just beat–I didn’t want to do anything. I didn’t want to cook (even though I...

Choosing Happiness

  This Lent, I had chosen to read books that I would have put off-again.  This year was different–my grandmother passed away March 1st- which was the first day of Lent.  Armed with that knowledge, I decided to not put off my book choices – The Four Last Things, Preparation for Death, and Meditations on the Four Last Things. I am due to write a review on each book, but that will come soon.  Although each book I know I will be keeping on my bookshelf, it’s worth meditating on for years to come.   Happiness is a Choice   One lesson that I have learned from reading this material, is that happiness is truly a choice.  We have only so much time on this earth, how we chose to spend it is our choice. This doesn’t mean, live our lives with only ourselves in mind, but always keep in mind of the happiness that is to come.  To obtain heaven, it has to always be in our thoughts.  What we say, do, and what we fail to do.  Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so today we live as if it could be our last.   #Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so #today we live as if it could be our last. Click To Tweet   I know that this sounds pretty morbid, but truly thinking about it, it’s not. When a person finds out that they have only 6 months to live– they are going to live those 6 months differently than someone who doesn’t know when they are going to die.   Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff   Another lesson I...
How I Truly Feel about Confession

How I Truly Feel about Confession

  We never practiced confession growing up.  You did something wrong–you go straight to God. It wasn’t a Sacrament in my home, because we weren’t Catholic–yet. The closest anyone got to reconciliation was a quick “sorry” and that would be the end of it. Whenever we heard the words, many times it didn’t seem genuine. We would say the words, but never admit what we were sorry for. So, Reconciliation wasn’t part of my family vocabulary. Even after our conversion to Catholicism, Reconciliation was an afterthought.  After all, we accepted it, but we still fought with our Protestant way of thinking. The Game Changer   All that changed for me a few years ago. While re-learning the faith I entered, I decided to randomly pick up, 7 Secrets of  Confession by Vinny Flynn. This once dreaded Sacrament became the one I love, and only second to the Eucharist. In my earlier way of thinking, you went into a closet and tell a man your deepest darkest secrets. A person who you don’t know, will know more about you than anyone else. That you wouldn’t be seen as a great person but a deeply flawed person. I have come to recognize that in that tiny box is a place of healing. A doctor for my soul. That man, is the ear of Christ, and he is there to doctor me. I had to give up my earlier notions that I wouldn’t be seen as perfect, as I like, and confessing my failings is what I needed to be closer to Him. Reconcilliation reminds me to see myself as I truly am. Warts and all....
What Humility Is Not

What Humility Is Not

  A few Sundays ago we heard a running theme through the reading, gospel and homily–humility.  There are many people, great and unknown that talk about this theme, write about it, and preach it.   What made this so personal for me is because, like everyone, I struggle with the idea of inadequacy and not measuring up.  Constantly that inner critic rears its ugly head and I’m back at square one.   So let’s begin by talking about what humility is not.   Humility is not putting yourself down.  Belittling yourself, and thinking ill of yourself.  It’s not thinking that you are not special.  Instead one of the ways to think of humility is not thinking of yourself more, but thinking of yourself less. Still don’t get it?  Okay, how about this: humility is accepting yourself, good, bad, ugly warts and all.  You accept every part of yourself and you are okay with it.  You accept the limitations that you have, and know when you have done your best. These days, its not cool to be humble and to show our true vulnerable state and expose our flaws.  Now I’m not saying what we need to do as an online confession (that’s what the Sacrament of Reconciliation is for).  What I am saying that it is okay to show a work in progress.   Most of the time, we beat ourselves up because we are comparing ourselves with someone’s finished self.  A writer will sit down and write hoping to complete a book that’s on par with Jane Austin.  Meanwhile not remembering that it takes time and many drafts, edits, and...
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