Don’t Forget Your Joy

If there was one piece advice that you could give someone, what would it be?

Mothering advice?

Family raising advice?




In this day and age we are all full of opinions. We all have advice to share and stories to tell. We have experiences that we want to pass on because we hope that it will help the next person, even if our wisdom has come too late for ourselves.

But what if…that one piece advice is a game changer? That single bit of wisdom is enough to help a person look at their situation differently. Your wisdom and experiences can help shape a better experience for someone else–as they would learn from your mistakes or pain.

If I had only one piece of advice to someone it would be simple:


Never stop doing the things that make you happy


It could be an old hobby or a new one. You could be bouncing between hobbies trying to discover YOU. Regardless of what’s going on or where your interests are–don’t stop them unless you want to.

The saddest day we will ever have is when we stop doing things for ourselves and let our interests disappear.

As a mother, it’s easy to put other people’s needs above our own, but the saying about mom not being happy no one is happy rings true in every family–even if you’re not a mom.

The reality is, if we are women are not happy, no one is benefitting. No one will see us as a sacrificial lamb.  What we do for our children and spouses will be in vain, especially if we’re looking for something in return. All they will say is, “What’s bugging her?”

I have come to understand (and often forget) that its our job to get ourselves 90% happy. The other 10% could be contributed from the important people in our lives. However, if they see you happy, who wouldn’t want to add to that joy?

I don’t know if there is a magic plan to be happy or some special formula that we can follow in order to never have a bad day.

All I really know, is that everyday is going to be different, and how our day ends usually starts with how we feel when we wake up.



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This is a great post and so needed for me today. I think doing something to make you happy should be a priority so that you can be better for your family and friends. Being joyful starts with you

This Cookn Mom

Everything you said here is very much true! Love it! Especially your day ending the same way you woke up.


This is one of those posts I need to print out and read as a daily affirmation. When I wake up feeling foul, I try to do something immediately to change it. Even if it’s to sit and meditate for a minute or two

Hugs and Mocha,


Which is why I write. It makes me happy. And I ALWAYS make time for it.


Great reminder. The day I understood that I was responsible for my own happiness was an eye opener. We really need to teach this to other women and girls. So much of society teaches us that it is someone else’s job to make us happy, usually a man. And then we end up unhappy waiting for them to get it right and not understanding why we can’t be happy. Thanks for sharing this so that others will know that the power is within them. It’s an amazing thing.

Happy Sharefest. Have a great weekend.

Sheila Skillingstead

Thank you for the post and the affirmation that finding joy will benefit others than yourself. I love the poster in your blog. I stopped writing for three years since I wasn’t published. What a mistake. Today I’m celebrating the launch of my new website and the publication of my kindle book The Mindstalker.

Shelda Raymonvil

This is a great post. I try to do what brings me joy despite work demands and other stressors. Finding time to please yourself is great. I usually read a book or keep up with blogs and bloggers or enjoy some ice cream. Thanks for sharing!

Visiting from SITS. -@SheldaRaymonvil


VVery very true and something I completely believe in….its the woman of the house who sticks all the pieces together so very important for her to be happy.


This is so awesome I had to pin it.

What an awesome post. I totally agree that it is our job to make ourselves happy, someone else can’t do it for you. I hate when people are influenced by others to take a direction in their lives that doesn’t result in real happiness. We have a responsibility to ourselves to be great.

I love this piece of advice, it may be the most crucial of them all.


Great quote! I agree, but I also think that interests change and things that are done for others can be, at the same time, for ourselves as long as we have the right attitude. I like what you said at the end. I am the only one who can make myself have a bad day and that usually starts with my attitude in the morning. Thanks for sharing! I’m stopping by from empowered living. Hope to see you at True Aim!


What great advice, simple and so true. When we start doing things we don’t love then we lose ourselves and our own purpose by sacrificing our happiness.


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