As you know, my word this year I have chosen the word: BOLD and as the first quarter of the year is at a close, and I’ve come to a lot of conclusions and insights on what this word means to me.
A harmless word when taken exactly for what it is, but a word that I did not interpret right.
bold
bΕld/adjective1.(of a person, action, or idea) showing an ability to take risks; confident and courageous.
I’ve come to learn that Bold for me is:
- Allowing myself to become detached from a lot of things.
- Being okay with not wanting to jump on all social media platforms to get my platform out there; and even removing myself from a few to stay true to myself.
- Not look externally for my happiness or definition of ‘self’.
- To talk about heartfelt things during the week, and change it up one day with something light-hearted.
- To disconnect to hear my voice and appreciate it.
For me, it’s the last one that is really hard to accept. After all, if you’re online and have an online presence, there is this deep urge to always be connected. However, in my continuous urge to connect and be connected, I end up picking up different energies that are not my own, goals that are not my own.
In moment of weakness, other people’s goals becomes my goal, and subconsciously, I find myself moving in that direction even thought I had no intention of going that way before. I find myself removed from my center, and know it’s time to disconnect.
It is in those moments of disconnect that I appreciate the most. Those moments of being offline, I can hear my voice and feel myself become realigned with my goals.
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I didn’t choose a word per say this year. This year I have become so focused on doing me that all words would apply to me. I love this post it speaks about being bold in a new way now you make me want to steal your word lol
Feel free to borrow (or take) my one word- there’s more than enough for us all! π I just love the direction you’re going with your magazine! Your dedication to it has really been paying off!
I love your definitions of bold! I think bold is doing what’s best for you despite what everyone else says!
You are so right, it’s really doing you regardless of what everyone else may think or say.
Such a brilliant post. We are very similar I am seeing from this post and others I have read of yours π Different in many ways of course, but in this post I see myself very much. It’s funny that you mention that about social media platforms! I had been off Instagram for a while and suddenly I got on thinking I was going to “need” to build a following there. Since I’ve been back blogging I haven’t posted anything on there. I guess I will when I can, but I am not a very showy person which is why I disabled my account in the first place. If I have something to go on there, I guess I will upload it. I have no urgency with it to be honest lol. I can definitely admit to having gone off course in the time that I have been blogging for the same reasons that you have mentioned here. I guess it wouldn’t have been terrible for me to be focused on making money blogging, but I soon learned that it was not for me to focus on being this huge blogger so that I can began to make money doing this. Blogging is for fun for me. Period. I have ideas that I have mulled over but I don’t really set my affections on things here. I keep them on things above. I want to stay content wherever God leads us. His plan is always the best one for me and my family π
Brittnei, I read your comment and smiled to myself the whole time! π I’ve fallen into the quest to make money online through my blog, and then found out that was not the right path for me at all. I love blogging, I love that I can do it for fun (like you said) and when I feel like it’s taking over–I just step back and reset myself.
I love connecting with other moms and people out there, but most of all I love sharing the messages that I have in my heart that I know I am supposed to share with anyone who is willing to listen. I’ve also questioned my role or if I should strive to be the “biggest blogger” (since that’s almost impossible in the blogging world), and I’ve come to learn that is not really for me. And I’m happy with it!
it’s going slow. In fact, I was beating myself up over not following through about a week a ago. But suddenly, I turned a corner and I’ve got ideas and plans and goals again. Here’s to the second quarter of the year!!
Aww, LaShawn! I’m so glad that you have your mojo back! Sometimes, all we need it step back and it all comes back to us π
Bold is all of those things. I think being bold is really just doing what is comfortable for you and not feeling any kind of way about it. That is how I live my life. The decisions I make are good for me at the moment I make them. I love that quote that you don’t regret things in your life sometimes because at that moment that decision was just what you needed.
I feel you on Social Media. I am an over sharer but there is still so much that I don’t share. Specifically my feelings. Those are mine but I’ll tell you all day about the mundane tasks of my day. I love SM for that reason, I get a glimpse into how different everyone is and I think that is just lovely. Not to use that as a reason to change the way I do things but rather to learn to embrace people that think and behave differently from me.
I love the diversity in the answer here! You are so right, SM can be used to see what’s going on with everyone else, and get a glimpse on how they “do it all.” I love how you mention how your feelings are yours but you can share the mundane things. I feel you on that! I share my thoughts here on my blog, but not so much my feelings. My thoughts, I can go all day and night (Lord knows) but feelings are so hard to put into words. Those too are very personal for me.
There are times I can think about my feelings as thoughts but not be as attached to them as I’m writing it (I don’t know if that makes any sense so I’m going to stop here).
My 2nd quarter of the year will be a lot bolder than the first. I’ve already begun making moves. This is great post for today. A message just me ME.
I remember seeing your 1st quarter results and they are ah. maze. ing! You just keep on doing what youβre doing π
Like you, I am a planner and a perfectionist. I love this idea that being bold sometimes isn’t about doing something different, but rather having the confidence to accept yourself just as you are.
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Spot on Katie! I think that’s the hardest thing to do, accept. Throw out all of our preconceived notions of who we are expected to be, and be just who we were made to be.
I found that interesting, what you said about picking up goals that are not your own. I hadn’t really thought about it, but I’ve stepped back a few times lately from other’s blogging agendas. Not that they were bad, I just didn’t feel led to participate in them on my blog. These first four months have flown by so fast, I need to take a look at how I’m doing with my word: Intentional! Thanks for the reminder!
You’re very welcome June! The thing about blogging is that we can so easily get caught up in what everyone else is doing, and not realize that we’ve steered off our own course. It wasn’t until I stepped back that I realized that is exactly what I was doing.